Okay okay….I didn’t literally kick her out of bed. But I did quit letting her sleep in mine. And I have to say…It was honestly easier than I anticipated. I never wanted to be “that mom” who let her kids sleep with her. It honestly wasn’t my plan. But when you throw in some giant life changes very early on, suddenly it becomes easier to just let them snuggle up with you than to constantly get up in the middle of the night. Now, I’m having to make that change. So this is why I kicked my daughter out of my bed!
When my son was born, he was very sick – lots of breathing problems, and random fever spikes made me afraid to ever let him out of my arms at night. Couple that with the fact that I was working full time, and going to school three nights a week, so sleeping with him also became how I got a little time with him. Kicking him out of bed wasn’t actually difficult because there wasn’t room for him anymore. He’s still a nighttime gypsy though – you literally never know where you’re going to find that kid sleeping. Couch. Bed. Floor. Living room floor. Recliner. It’s like a frat house in the mornings around here – careful where you step because they just kinda sleep where they end up falling! It honestly drives me completely batty. But I see it like this: He’s potty trained, he sleeps all night, and he doesn’t sleep in my bed. So I still consider this a win.
His sister, on the other hand, wasn’t as easy. My mother moved in with me a few years ago, and while her presence was a huge blessing during nursing school, as my kids are aging, it’s becoming difficult to find everyone their own “place” in a 3 bedroom house. So Ladybug’s stuff was in my mom’s room, but she was sleeping in mine. And I mean *she* was sleeping. Me notsomuch. She was like sleeping with a rabid octopus. I was waking up sore and cranky. And when you start factoring in the new wedding plans, I definitely needed to get this kid out of my bed! So I moved her bed into my room (my mother works until well after midnight, so leaving her in the same room meant my daughter being awakened every night when my mom came home).
I was a bit concerned that she wouldn’t like it, or that it wouldn’t go over very well. But I am truly surprised at how it went. She was extremely excited about her big girl bed, which was funny to me because she has had the same bed for two years, but apparently she just realized she can sleep in it all alone. Now this hasn’t been without an issue or two, but literally only a handful in the last 3 weeks. She goes to her bed without argument on most nights, and once she’s tucked in, she is generally asleep in a matter of minutes. And only wakes up in the middle of the night now when she needs to go to the bathroom, which she is doing all by herself without my help!
Now I know there are people who are gung ho one side or the other: to co-sleep or not to co-sleep, but I’m just a mom who has tried to use whatever method was the most effective and simple alternative at the time. And when it doesn’t fit, I have to make alterations. This is why I have decided to kick my kid out of bed. Believe me, it has definitely been a good decision!